Okay, your ex girlfriend broke up with you. You now realize what you had and you miss her and you really want a second chance. You want to get her back and show her how much you love and enjoy her.
So how do you do it? How to do it depends on what happened. While every situation is different, there are a few main reasons for breaking up. Youve got to figure out what happened so you know how to approach her.
One of the main reasons for losing your girlfriend is that you wronged her in some way. Maybe you cheated, or were too jealous and controlling.
The second reason for a lot of break ups is that she just isnt that into you anymore. Relationship drift. She was into you for a while and you had fun but she saw some things that she didnt like or got bored or didnt feel appreciated or didnt see a good future with you. Relationship drift is a huge reason that girls end things with guys.
To get her back, if you understand why she dumped you, then you know what approach to use. Let’s say you wronged her by cheating on her. In this case, the way you get her back is with a Smart Apology. You don’t just say I’m sorry a million times, you apologize in a way that can repair the damage in minutes.
There are several steps to this, but one of the key things is that you dont say your sorry til the 3rd or fourth step. The first step is to admit that you did wrong. Dont try to justify or explain or say you didnt mean it. Another step to take before saying youre sorry is to let her vent. Let her get the painful feelings she has about what you did off her chest. Again, you just listen, dont argue or defend yourself.
Now, if you can take just these two steps before you actually apologize, you are doing great. Saying you’re sorry til you’re blue in the face doesn’t work. Using the Emotional Logic of a smart apology can truly impact your girlfriend’s feelings for you.
What if she left because she isn’t into you anymore? Relationship drift? Then you need to follow a different approach, as an apology isn’t the answer. You can find out more about this in a free course from the link below. Getting your ex back involves a lot of relationship intelligence, but this is a good way to start the process.
